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10 Common Mistakes That Can Destroy A Marriage

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10 Common Mistakes That Can Destroy A Marriage

Post by Adeel on Sat Jan 29, 2011 11:47 pm

10 Common Mistakes That Can Destroy A Marriage





In life and love, you may think you’re supposed to always focus on the positive instead of the negative. However, unless you become aware of your own hurtful attitudes or actions — so that you can correct them — your chances of staying in love ’til death do you part are close to zero. To have your marriage last a lifetime, avoid these 10 common mistakes:


1. Talking “at” instead of “with” your spouse. Let his or her body language be your guide. When you’re talking “at” your partner, he or she will tense up. When you’re talking “with” your spouse, he or she will relax.


2. Belittling what your is saying. When you mind begins to wander, stop and remember that what your partner is saying is important to him or her.

3. Forgetting to thank your spouse. Not thanking your spouse for being considerate, thoughtful or kind makes him or her feel unappreciated and foolish for caring about you. Even if your spouse did something as simple as remembering to wash the laundry or cook dinner or pay an outstanding bill. Although it may be generally “considered as a duty”, it is not. In fact the main duty in a marriage is to make the other person happy, for most people, ultimately that does not necessary have to do with chores or bills.

4. Getting defensive instead of saying, “I’m sorry.” When you mess up, the sooner you sincerely say, “I’m sorry,” or “I was wrong,” the sooner your spouse can stop resenting you.

5. Always saying, “I’m sorry,” yet never changing. An apology buys you another chance. However, if you keep making the same mistake, apologies not only seem empty, but annoying as well.

6. Being repeatedly late. Frequently keeping your spouse waiting is not only inconsiderate, it’s arrogant.

7. Playing the victim. This behavior not only accuses your spouse of hurting you, but adds insult to injury by implying that he or she is doing it intentionally, when that may not be the case. Not everyone has the same capacity of receiving accusations, so it is safest not to jump and accuse your spouse of having bad intentions, even if they have repeated similar mistakes in the past.

8. Jumping to conclusions. Presuming that you know what your spouse feels — and why — without first getting all the facts is only going to push him or her away.

9. Badmouthing your spouse behind his or her back. This not only adds to the list of secrets you keep from your spouse, but also tells others how little you respect your partner.


10. Thinking that doing something once is enough. If you only temporarily stop making the above mistakes — and don’t continue to monitor yourself to keep from slipping back into bad habits — If your spouse was satisfied with that last bouquet of roses you bought her or that last time you dressed all pretty and gorgeous for him, all signs point to the fact that giving some love is a good thing. So keep it up!

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Post by Usman on Sun Jan 30, 2011 3:31 pm

Yeh tumne Ali aur Sana kilye kholi hai topic? Razz :haha
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Re: 10 Common Mistakes That Can Destroy A Marriage

Post by Adeel on Sun Jan 30, 2011 9:12 pm

nahi ? Very Happy .. kyun ? Very Happy ..

just because they are the married couple doesn't it mean that i posted this topic for them, but only for my own sake Smile .. and to do islaah Smile

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Post by Sana on Mon Jan 31, 2011 11:49 pm

lolz i think bhaiya was just kidding adeel .. of course sab ki shaadi honi hai inshaALlah to sab ko pata hona chahiye ke shaadishuda zindagi kaise guzarni chahiye .. but nice topic..thanks for sharing Smile
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Re: 10 Common Mistakes That Can Destroy A Marriage

Post by Ali on Tue Feb 01, 2011 4:33 pm

COOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!

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Re: 10 Common Mistakes That Can Destroy A Marriage

Post by Amina on Fri Feb 04, 2011 4:21 pm

lolz

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Re: 10 Common Mistakes That Can Destroy A Marriage

Post by Ali on Sat Feb 05, 2011 3:18 am

what happened amina??

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